Confusing being passive with being open. If holding space for something in our shadow is more comfortable for us than actually meeting it, we might slip into passivity—simply staying in a holding pattern with this shadow element, with a tacit agenda of keeping to this pattern because of the emotional remove that such behavior promises. We may appear open and spacious, but in fact we’re not. We’re attached to remaining intact, and so we keep more distance than is needed from the shadow element in question.
