Avoiding taking action when it’s needed. Sometimes holding space isn’t enough—such as when what we’re facing in our shadow is crossing the line into extreme agitation, and keeping ourselves apart from this feeling only aggravates the situation. Under these conditions, we may try to just stay as we are—attached to remaining uninvolved. Perhaps we think that we shouldn’t interfere, but to not step in is more harmful than staying put. For example, we’re holding space for some childhood pain we’ve encountered in our shadow, and we’re trying to keep from feeling that pain, to the point where we’re
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