The last point of our star is reflective, and it’s what framing is all about. Our choice of words and metaphors says as much about us as the goal. Is it a game or a conversation or a battle, and why do we frame it that way? My friend is a life coach, and she says eighty percent of her clients are not ready to plan, because they don’t trust or listen to themselves. How can you know what you want if you don’t even know who you are?