AUTHORITY IS AN ONGOING COMMITMENT As hosts of gatherings, clients and friends of mine sometimes agree to take charge. Their instinct is usually to do so once, early on in the gathering, perhaps by giving an overview of the agenda, or by leading a discussion about group norms, or by going over a set of instructions for a group game. Then, as far as they are concerned, their work is done. Having done their “hosting,” they can pretend to be guests. But exercising your authority once and early on in a gathering is as effective as exercising your body once and early on in your life. It isn’t
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