What did Daddy have on GM? Why was he still there? Finally, just a few months back, after thirty-one years, he retired and began a new life with new kinds of work, from obsessively researching our ancestral history to indulging Nina and Layla as well as Mark’s two boys, Theodore and Zachary, with expressions of love and affection that had been largely absent during my own childhood. I chalked it up to the softening that comes with age and time, the ability of love to heal, and the mysteries of being a grandparent.