The ceremony itself was straightforward. And now before us, on an altar cloth, were two small candles, both lit, representing Elliott and me. In the middle was a large candle that wasn’t lit. As Father Frank had instructed during the rehearsal, we were each supposed to take a small candle and together light the big one. This act would symbolize our union. The week before, I had successfully performed my first spinal tap on a newborn. Light a candle? Piece of cake. We lit the big candle in the middle of the table without incident. Then, as I tried to make sure my little candle was safely
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