Being ecological is like being a teacher. When you first start teaching, you try so hard to teach that it becomes excruciating. You want your students to like you. You want to like them. You don’t want to feel this excruciating feeling that you yourself are generating by trying so hard. You start to work with aggression (or you quit). You realize that you are a channel for your and your students’ negative as well as positive feelings, and your job is to hold those feelings for the students’ benefit. Then you wonder why you are trying so hard, and maybe you start to let go. You begin to trust.
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