How do you change a not-great situation in your relationship? By my count, there are a number of techniques, perspectives, and therapeutic modalities that, all bells and whistles aside, boil down to three specific choices: 1. Change yourself (more to the point, change the way you are in the relationship). 2. Change your partner (change the way they are in the relationship). 3. End the relationship. That’s it. The whole menu.
