I apologize in advance: A car-buying metaphor for assessing potential marital partners is rife with hypermasculine oversimplification. But I do think the comparison is apt in this instance. (Or maybe it’s just an excuse for me to write about cars.) Do we give more thought to the car we buy than the person we marry? Of course not. How can that be? Marriage is dramatically different from car-shopping, in this important respect: You don’t expect to go “spouse-shopping” many times in your life (or even twice). Problem is, how do you shop for something right now that’s supposed to still work for
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