Did I overlook Option #4, couples therapy? No. In my profession, couples therapy is affectionately referred to as “delaying the inevitable.” It’s a bizarre hybrid of the least effective aspects of combat and counseling: On one hand, confrontation without the authentic “no holds barred” catharsis; on the other hand, an attempt to gain insight but without the focus of looking solely at yourself or solely at the other person. It’s like trying to learn to juggle with five balls all at once, right from the first lesson.
