Recently, a female client and I were chatting during a break in testimony. We got onto the topic of “The Moment”—the moment when she realized, for the first time, that the marriage was over. (It’s a topic that interests me greatly; I tend to ask about it, to enlighten me for helping future clients.) Her response surprised me. “It was about two years ago, on a Saturday night, we were having sex—actually in the middle of having sex—and I remember a specific thought popped into my head, and I realized my marriage was probably over.” What, I asked, was the thought? “‘One of these days I really
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