When I am sharing space with someone who has good boundaries, I automatically merge with them. It would take too much energy to separate what I think and feel from what the other person expresses with such clarity. But when the other person is gone, I can think more clearly and know what I want, what I think, and what I believe. It requires a lot of energy for me to know myself. So, if I’m using up that energy to know you, then I have a weird amnesia about me. In
