Since they aren’t good tacticians when they feel angry, Nines buy time with passive expressions of their feelings. They are concerned that direct and aggressive verbal exchanges will result in fragmentation. But they also worry about being able to contain their own anger once they give it a voice and full rein. If you engage Nines in a difficult conversation because you are angry, they will usually just sit it out until you’ve stopped talking. Then they will methodically avoid both you and the subject until things settle. Regardless of where the anger originates, they will likely choose to go
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