The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships

by Suzanne Stabile

Here are some other things for Ones to keep in mind: You can . . . have people in your life who “get you”—other Ones, or others who understand Ones. be gracious when other people don’t do things the way you think they should be done. seek perfection, but you can’t have it. Perfection is momentary, then something shifts and everything changes. make every effort to leave everything better than you found it, though you can’t do it alone. But you can’t . . . have inner peace if you continue to commit to an ever-rising set of internal standards for yourself. accurately measure your own goodness and value based on the constant chatter of the inner critic. live in a world where everyone attends to details in the same ways that you do. change how others see. expect other numbers to achieve perfection as you define it. That isn’t just a matter of preference; it’s how they see, and it’s not going to change, no matter what you do or say. So you’ll need to accept that . . . your way is not the only right way. some things—perhaps many things—are good enough. you need to stop working so you and others can rest. you are good—really good—just as you are.