You can come to see a wider range of possibilities for yourself. First, however, you need to detach from your current story and recognize your power of agency. Then, you can begin to make conscious decisions about how you would like your life to unfold, writing a new story for yourself in the process.
The power of agency (from Wikipedia)
From social science agency is the capacity of individuals to act independently and to make their own free choices.
One’s agency is one’s independent capability or ability to act on one’s will.
Three elements:
Iterational (past)
Projective (future)
Practical evaluative (present)
