The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

by Warren Farrell

Even when emotional intelligence is so undeveloped that hate becomes an unchecked bonding mechanism, as among hard-core white supremacists, Life After Hate groups have successfully reversed the hatred of thousands and replaced it with empathy, love, and self-forgiveness.12 There are, then, ways emotional intelligence and empathy can be learned even by those we might assume are hopeless. There is a second application of training for emotional intelligence and empathy. If the haters can learn empathy, maybe we can learn empathy toward the haters. When our only response to haters is to hate, we increase our brain’s training to hate and decrease its training to empathize. We become a bit of the enemy we hate.

Life After Hate groups