For the victim, life is a spectator sport. His favorite place is on the sidelines, not the field. He loves to criticize those who are in the game. But his opinions crowd out his actions. This makes him feel safe because, although he can do nothing to help his team, he cannot be blamed when his team loses. He tends to blame the players, the coach, the referees, the opponents, the weather, bad luck, and everything else. Although his explanations may be technically correct, they are disempowering. What he blames, he empowers.
