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Amy Morin
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November 27, 2022
Good habits are important, but it’s often our bad habits that prevent us from reaching our full potential.
but if you keep doing the bad habits alongside the good ones, you’ll struggle to reach your goals. Think of it this way: you’re only as good as your worst habits.
We work hard to do the things that we think will make us better, but we forget to focus on the things that might be sabotaging our efforts.
mental strength is about improving your ability to regulate your emotions, manage your thoughts, and behave in a positive manner, despite your circumstances.
our best decisions in life when we balance our emotions with rational thinking.
Our hearts and our heads need to work together to control our bodies.
it’s about acting according to your values.
Increasing your mental strength isn’t about suppressing your emotions; instead it’s about developing a keen
awareness of them.
interpreting and understanding how your emotions influence your t...
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about understanding your thoughts and feelings well enough that you can determine when to behave contrary to them, and when to listen to them.
Mental strength is about thinking realistically and rationally.
Being mentally strong will help you to be more content in life,
Mental strength isn’t synonymous with mental health.
Just like people can still be physically strong even if they have a physical health ailment like diabetes, you can still be mentally strong even if you have depression, anxiety, or other mental health problems.
Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive.
leads to new problems and can have serious consequences.
self-pity keeps the focus on why things should be different rather than accepting the situation for what it is.
Instead of pitying ourselves for what we lost, we choose to feel grateful for what we had.
When you notice self-pity creeping into your life, make a conscious effort to do something contrary to how you feel.
Volunteer to help a worthy cause.
Perform a random act of kindness.
Do something active.
your behavior change can help shift your attitude.
finding which behaviors will extinguish your feelings of self-pity.
If you choose to look for the silver lining, even in a bad situation, you’ll experience joy and happiness much more often.
What’s another way I could view my situation?
What advice would I give to a loved one who had this problem?
What evidence do I have that I can get through this?
Feeling sorry for ourselves often stems from a lack of confidence in our ability to handle problems.
gratitude is about thinking I have more than I deserve.
Look for those little things in life that you can so easily take for granted and work toward increasing your feelings of gratitude.
Find one of life’s gifts to be grateful for each morning when you wake up and each night before you go to sleep.
hearing the words of gratitude will increase your feelings of gratitude.
Change the channel when you’re experiencing self-pity.
Don’t allow yourself to continue thinking that life isn’t fair or that life should be different. Instead, sit down and list the people, circumstances, and experiences in life that you can be thankful for.
You’ll only be as good as someone else’s opinion of you and you will never be able to receive enough praise or positive feedback to meet your needs if you depend on others to feel good about yourself.
forgive someone who has hurt you, either emotionally or physically, doesn’t mean you have to excuse the other person’s behavior, but letting go of your anger frees you to focus your energy on a more worthwhile cause.
Don’t give one person’s opinion of you the power to determine who you are.
Make a conscious choice to think about how you want to behave before you react to other people.
Excuse yourself from the situation.
The more emotional you feel, the less rational you’ll think.
Don’t try solving a problem or addressing an issue with someone when you’re feeling overly emotional.
Retaining your power is about evaluating feedback to determine if it has any validity.
When you receive criticism or feedback from others, wait a beat before responding.
reminding yourself that you have a choice in everything you do, think, and feel can be very freeing.
When you decide that no one else has the power to control how you feel, you’ll experience empowerment.
