Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (And World Peace)

by Chade-Meng Tan

In the context of the work environment, emotional intelligence enables three important skill sets: stellar work performance, outstanding leadership, and the ability to create the conditions for happiness.

To quote Viktor Frankl, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.” What a mind of calmness and clarity does is to increase that space for us.

Meta-attention is attention of attention, the ability to pay attention to attention itself.

happiness is not something that you pursue; it is something you allow. Happiness is just being.

“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.”4

MEDITATION CIRCUIT TRAINING

Alignment is built upon self-awareness. When you know yourself at a deep level, you begin to understand your core values, purposes, and priorities. You know what is really important to you and what gives you meaning. With this clarity, you know what makes you happy at work and how best to contribute to the world. You will then know what work situation you want to create for yourself. When the right opportunity presents itself, you will be able to work in ways that offer you autonomy, mastery, and purpose. With that, your work will become a source of your happiness.

The more detailed the imagery in your mind, the better this exercise will work. Hence, consider these questions before writing. In this future: • Who are you and what are you doing? • How do you feel? • What do people say about you? Let’s spend a minute in silent contemplation before writing. (1-minute pause) Start writing.

The first step to learning optimism is becoming aware of our own strong negative experiential bias.

Aristotle said, “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

May I be well. May I be happy. May I be free from suffering.

Simply put, it’s better to praise people for working hard than for being smart. Oh, and thank you for reading this book. You must have worked hard at it. Good effort!

SCARF model, which stands for Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and Fairness.6