Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (And World Peace)

by Chade-Meng Tan

The hard part in mindfulness practice is deepening, strengthening, and sustaining it, especially in times of difficulty.

Mindfulness trains two important faculties, attention and meta-attention.

happiness is the default state of mind.

There you have it. Mindfulness is the skill that gives you the faculty of voluntarily bringing back a wandering attention over and over again,

self-awareness as “knowing one’s internal states, preferences, resources and

the only highly sustainable source of self-confidence comes from deep self-knowledge and blatant self-honesty.

anger arises out of powerlessness, while indignation arises out of power.

Ultimately, self-regulation is about making friends with our emotions.

Flow occurs when the task at hand matches the skill level of the practitioner,

each negative feeling is three times as powerful as a positive one.

The real moral of the story is that trust has to begin with sincerity, kindness, and openness, so it is optimally productive to start every relationship that way, both in work and in life.

In organizational awareness, you understand the feelings, needs, and concerns of individual people and how those feelings, needs, and concerns interact with those of others and how that all weaves into the emotional fabric of the organization as a whole.

Specifically, he defines compassion as having three components: 1. A cognitive component: “I understand you” 2. An affective component: “I feel for you” 3. A motivational component: “I want to

greatness. Collins calls them “Level 5” leaders. These are leaders who, in addition to being highly capable, also possess a paradoxical mix of two important and seemingly conflicting qualities: great ambition and personal humility.

These five domains form a model which David calls the SCARF model, which stands for Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and

it’s not the stress itself that gets to you; it’s the feeling of helplessness in the face of that stress.

Humans are the only animals known to voluntarily injure their own self-interests to punish the perceived unfairness of others.

They are the content conversation (“What happened?”), the feelings conversation (“What emotions are involved?”), and the identity conversation (“What does this say about me?”).

Love them. Understand them. Forgive them. Grow with them.

three wonderful qualities of mind naturally emerge: calmness, clarity, and happiness.

You don’t take action, action takes you.

Meditation is another word for mind training. It is scientifically defined as “a family of mental training practices that are designed to familiarize the practitioner with specific types of mental processes.”