We're Going to Need More Wine

by Gabrielle Union

I have felt lost plenty, stuck in the dungeons I was thrown into, and some I even locked myself into.

For decades, sociologists like Margaret Hunter have collected real empirical evidence that we are color struck. Darker-skinned people face a subset of racial inequalities related to discipline at school, employment, and access to more affluent neighborhoods. In one study, Hunter found that a lighter-skinned woman earned, on average, twenty-six hundred dollars more a year than her darker sister. In her 2002 study of the color stratification of women, Hunter also presented real statistical evidence showing that light-skinned African American women had “a clear advantage in the marriage market and were more likely to marry high-status men than were darker-skinned women.”

Michelle doesn’t want that. She’s stuck, because if she does what comes natural to her and keeps it low key, guys won’t even notice her. But if she shows she wants a relationship, men will flee.

The more that women mentor women, the stronger our answer is to the old-boys’ network that we’ve been left out of. We can’t afford to leave any woman behind. We need every woman on the front lines lifting each other up . . . for the good of all of us and the women who come behind us.