The most important thing about giving feedback is that it must be about behavior, rather than some essentializing characterization of a person, like “You’re unfocused.” It also must be actionable. The person receiving it has to understand the specific changes in their actions that are being requested. The comment “You’re making a great effort, but you’re not getting enough done” is essentially meaningless. An action version would be “I can see how hard you’re working, and I really appreciate that, but I’ve noticed that there are some things you’re spending too much time on at the expense of
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