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Self-care is how we fuel our self-love so that we are able to share our love with everyone around us. Our hearts are warm when we are able to show up with generosity, patience, and compassion for the ones we love, but we must remember that it is impossible to truly be there for others without taking care of ourselves first. We take care of ourselves by asking what our needs are. We take care of ourselves by making healthy choices when it comes to our physical and emotional bodies. We take care of ourselves by lightening up and not being so damn hard on ourselves. At times, life seems to be one
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A loving relationship is built on compromise and working with our partner to continuously evolve into our best selves. This is not possible without hard truths, tough conversations, personal growth, and behavioral shifts. The ego does not like any of this. The ego wants us to believe that we are always right and that our way of doing things is always the best way. Our spirit, on the other hand, knows that the people we love are in our life to challenge us to rise to new levels of consideration and care in all that we do. We cannot truly choose to invest in love while our ego is present, for
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all of it which parts of yourself won’t you let yourself love yet? befriend your ingredients the spicy, the sweet, the pain, the heartache, the gifts, the shame, and the shine fall in love with all of you savor yourself
But when we are thankful for what we have and understand the difference between what we want and what we need, we are able to relax the mind and put less pressure on ourselves to obsessively upgrade the things in our life. Release the energy of more, more, more and replace it with the energy of thank you, thank you, thank you.
True confidence comes from affirming ourselves regularly and treating ourselves kindly.
Approach your life with the vibrancy of “I got this,” because at the end of the day . . . who is to say you don’t?
Love yourself enough to walk into only the rooms and situations that show care and love for you. Love yourself enough to walk out of the rooms that harm you in any way. Love yourself enough to hold the people who harm you accountable for their words and actions. Love yourself enough to express your wants, your needs, and your desires. Love yourself enough to tell the truth. Love yourself enough to keep yourself safe. Love yourself enough to say enough is enough when enough has become enough.
be heard sing your song if that is what is inside of you sing your damn song do your soul that favor
There is no way to give kindness to another without knowing it in ourselves first. We must continually ask ourselves (especially on our tough days when we are feeling the most hurt or irritated): Is this the kindest thought I could have? Is this the kindest thing I could say? Is this the kindest action I could take in this situation? To achieve a kinder world, we must approach kindness with ambition and dedication. We must practice it in every moment of our lives. Kindness is that important.
Very few decisions in life leave us in a neutral space. Most of the decisions we make when it comes to work, family, and relationships are either constructive or destructive. Ask yourself: Which are you choosing? Is the way you treat your loved one building your bond or breaking it apart? Does your behavior toward them chip away at your trust or solidify it? How are you treating yourself? The body, mind, and spirit require constructive thoughts and actions in order to build your best possible life. Don’t tear yourself down when you have the power to build yourself up.
I did not lose the lesson I did a lot of things not in the right way some may even call them mistakes I just call them the scars that keep me from touching the oven too long when it is hot
Life does not always allow for us to be in the right frame of mind to always do the right thing at the right time. To know this is to remember that you are human. We are not born knowing the best way to navigate the worst circumstances. We are all more than our mistakes. Our mistakes do not make us bad people. Our mistakes, when met with awareness and personal responsibility, are actually what introduce us to our best selves.
how to keep going pause breathe repair your universe proceed
know that just because something is important to us, does not mean we have to control it by attaching stress, worry, and anxiety to it. Let go. Let what is meant to be . . . be. What is meant for us flows freely in harmony with us, not against us.
Sometimes our habitual thinking takes over and we end up complaining or being upset about things that don’t actually matter to us. Break the habit. Before you get worked up about something, ask yourself, Do I really value this enough to exhaust myself emotionally over it? Ask yourself if it is worth it to have it play on a mental loop in your head. Ask yourself if it is worth your energy or worth your words. You are in charge of how much space a thought takes up in your life. Take the time to carefully consider what you let be a part of your being and your spirit.
a message from today maybe don’t tomorrow your life away
The triumphant are celebrated not because they win every time but because they never quit when they lose.
Because we go through so many stages and phases, it is important to consistently reset our goals so that they can grow with us. When we reset our goals, we allow for each one to flow into the next and connect with all phases of our life. Refresh your goals regularly and with intention. It will help you stay continuously motivated and inspired.
Letting someone know that you believe in them is one of the most fundamental acts of kindness.
Our work ethic is something that must be applied to our home, our family, our community, and our world. Don’t allow for your goals to exist only in the workplace or where they can be financially rewarded. Live with ambition for your entire existence. Every aspect of your life can be made better with your hard work, love, and devotion.
turn the lock the past cannot stay the past if it is always on your mind there is only one person holding the key that frees you from the shackles of days gone by you.
the way out and the way forward I loved myself through what I had been through this is how I stayed afloat even when life’s waters raised above my head and when I needed someone to trust this is how I knew which hands were helping hands and which were hurting hands
these things take time I am the caterpillar right now I may not be flying high like a butterfly but I am sure as hell grounded
as I go forward I may stumble but I stand up more than I fall down
There will always be people and circumstances that trigger our anger, sadness, or resentment, but when we allow those emotions to stay on a loop in our minds, that is on us, not on them. Instead, if we let go and allow the new day to bring new energy, we are given a clean slate to really understand what is upsetting us and problem-solve from a place of freshness rather than a place of hostility.
Love cannot flourish on autopilot. It requires renewed devotion every moment of every day.
But it is worth it to ask yourself if any of the things you are working around are keeping you up at night or are things that you are constantly venting about to your friends. If so, change your strategy. Choose to work through what is upsetting you. Dissect it, get to know it, and if you need help, get help. Nothing negative deserves to take up major real estate in your mind or in your heart.
Heartbreak is so incredibly mysterious. While on the one hand, we are in so much pain with amplified feelings of loneliness and abandonment, we are also in such an elevated state of sensitivity, allowing us to be hugely in tune to the information our heart has to offer us. When we are in this state of intense intimacy with our heart, we are able to learn so many lessons that benefit our journey and future relationships. We can only fully tap into all that our emotional intelligence has to offer when we are able to really sit with what we are feeling, even when what we are feeling is pain.
love is an action verb I loved back not because their love sounded sweet but because their love had feet it did not tell you where it was going it showed you
