The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

by Ichiro Kishimi

Such people try to make themselves ‘special’ by way of their experience of misfortune, and with the single fact of their misfortune try to place themselves above others. Take the fact that I am short, for instance. Let’s say that kind-hearted people come up to me and say, ‘It’s nothing to worry about,’ or ‘Such things have nothing to do with human values.’ Now, if I were to reject them and say, ‘You think you know what short people go through, huh?’,

‘In fact, if we were to ask ourselves who is the strongest person in our culture, the logical answer would be the baby. The baby rules and cannot be dominated.’ The baby rules over the adults with his weakness.

there are two objectives for behaviour: to be self-reliant and to live in harmony with society.