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March 15 - March 20, 2020
We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.’
Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live.
you are unhappy now because you yourself chose ‘being unhappy’.
But please understand that what you are feeling is not an objective inferiority, but a subjective feeling of inferiority.
Anger as an expression of a personal grudge is nothing but a tool for making others submit to you.
no matter how much you might think you are right, try not to criticise the other party on that basis.
If the person seems to be happy, one can frankly celebrate that condition. That is love. Relationships in which people restrict each other eventually fall apart.
‘If two people want to live together on good terms, they must treat each other as equal personalities.’
No matter how distressful the relationship, you must not avoid or put off dealing with it.
Being recognised by others is certainly something to be happy about. But it would be wrong to say that being recognised is absolutely necessary.
You believe in your partner; that is your task.
first, learn the boundary of ‘from here on, that is not my task’.
It isn’t your job to be liked by people at the place you work.
do not intervene in other people’s tasks, or allow even a single person to intervene in one’s own tasks.
When one is tied to the desire for recognition, the interpersonal relationship cards will always stay in the hands of other people.
‘Someone has to start. Other people might not be cooperative, but that is not connected to you. My advice is this: you should start. With no regard to whether others are cooperative or not.’