I’d been around the military all my life, so I knew about post-traumatic stress syndrome—shell shock, they used to call it—but it never occurred to me that there are all kinds of battlefields in this world. Now I see so clearly that we were both scarred and suffering for years, because we didn’t know how to deal with it in the moment. I was a zombie for months. It was hard for me to see past my own pain long enough to understand what was going on with my husband.
