Stanley Hauerwas, ethics professor at Duke University, says we never marry the right person. “We never know whom we marry; we just think we do,” he writes. “Or even if we first marry the right person, just give it a while and he or she will change. For marriage, being [the enormous thing it is] means we are not the same person after we have entered it. The primary challenge of marriage is learning how to love and care for the stranger to whom you find yourself married.”
