take your feared consequence and ask: “How bad would that really be?” Is this truly a disaster of epic proportions? Really? If you’ve already talked yourself down to less-than-disastrous proportions, you can go right to “How could I cope?” If not, ask, “What are the odds?” What’s more realistic? What is more likely to happen? And finally, “How could I cope?” Think of all the resources you could gather: family, friends, self-care, health insurance, gummy bears; pull out all the stops here!