Similarly, if your kid passes on your offer to help with homework at the appointed hour, but then comes to you for help at 9:00 or 10:00, say, “The time for homework has passed. It’s time for bed. You need your rest so you can think clearly tomorrow, and so do I.” If she wants to get up early to complete it, that’s fine, but you shouldn’t help her. Your consulting hours are clear, and she can either take advantage of them or not.

