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Lori Perkins
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June 29 - July 6, 2019
monster but he’s not a ‘lone wolf.’ There’s a whole system that enables, tacitly endorses & disguises his behavior as acceptable. I hope holding him accountable brings about change.
Know that at the beginning of your career, you are viewed as fresh meat in the lion’s den. 2. You will start at the bottom, but having the skills necessary will give you the means to work your way up. 3. Understand money. If you are dependent on someone else for the roof over your head, you can get boxed in. 4. Explore your sexuality, respect its power. Own it. 5. Respect your choices and own them. I don’t regret my years on Wall Street. They were exciting and fun. I witnessed some historic New York moments from the front row. But I do wonder what I could have been doing elsewhere.
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Situations of subtle compromise are probably the most frequent abuse of power, and the most difficult to identify as sexual misconduct, because the aggressor can easily say he was misunderstood.
I believe “I was only…” are three of the most dangerous words in the English language. “I was only joking.” “I was only trying to help.” “I was only…” No. You weren’t.
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I believe “I was only…” are three of the most dangerous words in the English language. “I was only joking.” “I was only trying to help.” “I was only…” No. You weren’t.
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Don't be that guy who rapes, who sexually assaults women, who catcalls, who gropes, who makes sexist comments. But don't be that guy who cannot be trusted to deal with the reality of women being assaulted without resorting to physical violence, who cannot be supportive, not because he doesn't care, but because he needs to act out violent impulses.
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I believe that men do not have nearly enough support for their sexual assault experiences. I believe that the patriarchy fucks both men and women, and that one of the primary ways in which it fucks men is that it makes sexual assault against men invisible. It makes it next to impossible for men to get support when they’re sexually assaulted, or even to get any acknowledgement of their sexual
