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June 1, 2018
women tend to misinterpret a man's sexual interest as "just being friendly" while men misinterpret a woman's friendliness as sexual interest.
More than 90% of romance readers are women.
idea of marrying for love is a fairly new invention.
Only about 3 percent of animal species are monogamous.
"Face it: Monogamy is unnatural
That sort of thing happens every time men feel like they can get away with it without getting in trouble for it.
"Women serving in the U.S. military today are more likely to be raped by a fellow soldier than killed by enemy fire in Iraq.”
many experts saying most young men joining the group are more interested in sex than Islam or jihad.”
“Desire is in men a hunger, in women only an appetite.” (Mignon McLaughlin)
you women use sex to get love, and we men use love to get sex.
“Marriage is for woman the commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution.” (Bertrand Russell)
Envy is the desire to have what someone else has. Jealousy is the fear of losing what you have.
Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them - a clearly misguided belief.
females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual.
men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.”
She interprets his signals of sexual interest as friendliness. He reads her signals of friendliness as sexual interest.
Part of the problem is that defining the line between a platonic relationship and a romantic relationship is difficult.
The line between what makes you a friend, versus what makes you a boyfriend or girlfriend is blurry
cross-sex friendships do not last as long. They either turn into romantic relationships, or end when it becomes awkward.
"Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place." (Billy Crystal)
Once you have established that you can talk negatively about your partner with this person, you are setting up a close and emotional relationship, as well as an opening where this person can move in to fill the needs that your partner isn’t.
“A woman can become a man's friend only in the following stages: first an aquaintance, next a mistress, and only then a friend.” Anton Chekhov
But if you actually love your current partner and you want to build a future together, then opposite-sex friendships are toxic. That sort of thing is the #1 reason why relationships break up, because every affair first starts out as a casual opposite-sex friendship.
