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by
Ora North
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December 14, 2017 - January 23, 2018
The more we identify ourselves as empaths through our experiences with others, the more we give away our personal power, both consciously and unconsciously.
We are pigeonholing ourselves into a service role where we lack autonomy, self-empowerment, and freedom of choice.
Sacrificing your own personal journey for the sake of others isn’t the holy badge of honor that it’s made out to be.
There is nothing sacred about losing yourself disguised as a holy mission.
I had what I call my “fuck it” moment. I got real honest about myself and what I needed. I acknowledged that I had years of hurt inside my bones. My cells remembered. I could not and would not wrap up my hurt, put a pretty zen-master bow on it, and give it away to the world as “a gift”.
The truth is that you cannot truly be of lasting service to others until you are in service to yourself. The true gift of being an empath is not in your connection to others, but in your connection to yourself as a powerful and liberated force of nature. You have the power to fill your own cup and meet your own needs.
The act of feeling, for an empath, is not just a byproduct of other people, but a solitary art. The empath is not just a sponge for other people. The empath is a solitary artist.
The more you honestly witness and validate the pain you feel, the more your pain wants to go to work for you.
inside of you is a deep well of creation, and you are a solitary artist of feeling.
The truth is that every feeling you wrote down, however small or insignificant, came from either a place of internal strength or internal wounding. Those sources of feeling are what rule you day in and day out, whether you realize it or not.
By telling anyone, whether you know their personal pain or not, that they are whole and perfect, you are unconsciously telling them that they deserve their pain.
your own wholeness must include the acceptance of your brokenness.
“The wound is where the light enters.” What is the gold we would repair ourselves with? How can we let the light enter? We tell our stories. We speak with honesty and authenticity. We find ways to creatively express that brokenness. We bring our vulnerability into the light within our communities. We practice radical self-love.
One of the more difficult aspects of self-growth is that old versions of ourselves need to die, as well as the desired versions of ourselves that never came to pass.
In the quest to become enlightened beings, we’ve idealized the non-human and demonized the human, effectively promoting the idea that we must rid ourselves of our humanness to be spiritual masters.
My wings are useless if they can’t carry my baggage.
How can we stay in the light all the time when half of our lives are literally spent in the dark?
If you don’t befriend it and allow it space, it will manipulate you for its own purpose to take up space anyways.
When it comes to self-growth and exploration, if you’ve found yourself in a contradiction, you’ve stumbled into truth.
This common thread is the empath’s first experience of feeling like they are too sensitive for this world and that their sensitivity is unwelcome or unseen.
These are all things that confirm the empath’s greatest fear: they’re too sensitive for this world.
I think it’s important to remember that we’re all, without exception, sparkly divine mystical beings with the entire power of the universe at our fingertips. I think it’s equally as important to remember that we’re all, without exception, these weird human creatures that fart, make bad decisions, and feel insecure. And it’s even more important to remember that the latter does not negate the former.
Be brave in using your voice and speaking your truth, while knowing that your truth expands across both the positive and the negative, and that they are both equally valid.
Joy is the most potent force of manifestation magic available, so you will find that the transformation and alchemy available to you when you embrace your childlike joy is overwhelmingly powerful. This kind of joy is especially powerful because it comes out of the acknowledgment and validation of emotional pain, and that is an empath superpower.
You are essentially putting a name tag on that energy so it will be easier for you to identify in a crowd of other energies.
take each emotion and divide them into three categories: the sacred, the harmful, and the neutral.
Sacred emotions are always a reclamation of something: your power, your independence, your creativity.
When you make a habit of allowing your feelings the space for sacred expression, your feelings begin to shift, and you’ll need those expressions less.
that first frantic feeling is very important.
Balance and discernment makes all the difference.
Neutrality means that you can allow yourself to have whatever feelings you have, but without acting upon them. Neutrality means that you can allow other people to have whatever feelings they have, but without reacting to them.
Nobody wants to have triggers; they just don’t know their other options yet.
Getting physical space sets the stage for you to be able to sort through your feelings safely.
their dark arts, their sexuality, and their journeys into Death and transformation.
Having little physical reminders of the work you’re doing will keep you connected and validate your work.
Your human self is always playing catch-up with your spirit. Your only job, when it comes to building your boundaries, is to establish a truer connection to your higher self and to establish an awareness of the boundaries that already exist.
How can you tune into those pre-existing boundaries? The first step is always to ground yourself. Grounding is an important process which keeps your energy stable. The general concept is that when grounding, you are connecting into the energy of the earth and drawing excess energy to your feet to be stabilized in the ground.
Does it feel like a betrayal or an expansion?
All those things that suck the joy right from your life are areas where your boundaries are needed.
Feeling in flow and in joy is like an automatic exercise in strengthening your boundaries. It’s positive reinforcement to your spirit.
You must be able to verbalize your boundaries.
If something isn’t working out for you, you can negotiate different terms with your higher self. If the way you experience energy is causing trouble for you, you can tell the Universe the ways you’d prefer to experience it. The Universe is actually fairly accommodating to those who speak bravely out loud.
It’s not your job to meet everyone’s emotional needs.
‘No’ is a sacred word. Use it.
When you change, your loved ones have to grieve the death of the old you. You have to grieve the death of the old you.
The people who can’t or won’t adjust to your growth are not meant to be close to you anymore, and that’s a tough pill to swallow, especially when you love those people.
Our stubbornness to be fierce and powerful goddesses all the time can end up hurting us if we’re not taking the steps to stop and listen and heal.
when you do this type of transformative emotional work on yourself, your entire line benefits from that work. By healing yourself and sifting through your own karma, you are assisting in healing your mother’s karma and your grandmother’s karma and on and on.
Forcing yourself into a stressful or traumatizing situation is not strength, it’s disrespect.
Where you were once overwhelmed by everyone else’s energy, you can now sort it out, creating space for yourself.
