Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

by Aziz Gazipura

clients who were trying the hardest to be nice people also felt the most anxious, guilty, and frustrated.

They had difficulty standing up for themselves, felt obligated to please others, and worried about what people thought of them.

Being nice does not come out of goodness or high morals. It comes out of a fear of displeasing others and receiving their disapproval.

It’s driven by fear, not virtue.