Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

by Aziz Gazipura

you want full contact with life and other humans instead of hiding who you are behind a polite wall of fear.

The opposite of nice is knowing who you are, what you believe in, and what you value.

I’m completely free to choose exactly how I want to be in this moment, based on what feels right to me. I am the decider. I am the creator of my life.

Because fear, guilt, obligation, and distracting self-consciousness don’t make you a more loving person; they create tension and resentment that limit your ability to truly give and love.

“Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and death than all the crimes of passion in history. Fuck politeness. Fuck diplomacy. Tell the truth.” - Brad Blanton, author of Radical Honesty

Once we make a decision from our core, and turn it into a powerful commitment, there’s no stopping us.

Being in a deeply committed, amazing marriage requires even higher levels of honesty, directness, and a willingness to have uncomfortable conversations.

As you let go of niceness, guilt, pleasing others, and fear of conflict, everything improves.