If you’re not sure what they need, guess what? You can ask them! This sounds so simple, yet I didn’t realize it was a valid option for years. It’s not only valid, it can be the most supportive and effective way to help someone when they are struggling. In a curious and patient tone, ask them, “Do you know what you need right now?” or “What do you think would support you best right now?” These are just a few examples of the dozens of ways you can support, help, and contribute to others. Once we’ve let go of taking responsibility for others’ feelings, it frees us up to focus on them and really
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