Where do you tend to live? What number on the spectrum, between one and seven? Most nice people hover around two–You First, Then Me. They meet their needs only after they’re sure everyone else is covered. They ask for what they want only if they think others will want the same thing. Under stress they drop down to a 1 (Always You, Never Me) and completely forgo their own needs, wants, and desires. They’ll tell themselves something like this: How on earth could I ask for what I need when it’s obvious he’s struggling so much. Now is not the time. Sometimes, they’ll move up to level 3 (Sometimes
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