Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

by Aziz Gazipura

one of the biggest traps of niceness is the pressure to stay nice.

that you only need to find your people, not everyone.

Because you know that if they get upset, it’s temporary. They’re not fragile, and they’re not a victim. Speaking the truth as you see it is healthy for the relationship and brings energy and vitality, and speaking up in itself is good, regardless of the outcome.

You Get What You Think You Deserve

It’s hard to really trust that person because they’re not showing who they really are.

In short, it’s healthy to disagree with others.

And we imagine they have poor boundaries as well and don't have the right to decide for themselves if they want to say yes or no. We fear they’ll feel pressured to say yes and be upset with us, resenting our demanding, selfish nature.