People are taught that they’re expected to like cross-sex partners. When asexual people find themselves not feeling heterosexual attraction, they look at the orientations available to them and sometimes think being gay is the only other option. They may also think they are bisexual, polysexual, or pansexual. Observing that their interest in one gender is the same as any other, they may pick up one of the terms that seems to describe that, without realizing asexuality is a possibility.
Wow this describes part of my journey perfectly!
