The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

by Julie Sondra Decker

Invisibility means not being able to connect with others like you. It means being very likely to come to the conclusion that you are broken. It means seeing no boxes to check and being filled with fear or shame or frustration. It means being isolated in a way that is unimaginable to most people

"who take their visibility for granted.

People are taught that they’re expected to like cross-sex partners. When asexual people find themselves not feeling heterosexual attraction, they look at the orientations available to them and sometimes think being gay is the only other option. They may also think they are bisexual, polysexual, or pansexual. Observing that their interest in one gender is the same as any other, they may pick up one of the terms that seems to describe that, without realizing asexuality is a possibility.

Wow this describes part of my journey perfectly!

• Maybe it confuses you when people’s ultimate fantasies include sex. Your thoughts on getting three wishes, fulfilling a bucket list, or having your last Earthly experiences on Doomsday would not involve sex.

This is exactly me growing up.