The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

by Julie Sondra Decker

This book is for people who are on the asexual spectrum, people who think they might be asexual, friends and family and partners of people who have come out as asexual, curious parties, and those looking for information on the subject for their school papers, sexuality studies, and alternative sexuality resources. And it’s for people who think asexuality doesn’t exist.

For everyone, sexual orientation is more like a range, not a simple series of separate categories. (Especially since gender isn’t as simple as “male or female/man or woman,” which complicates how we describe what genders we’re attracted to; some people are between, outside, or a mixture of the binary genders.

But sexual orientation is not determined by whether someone has sex or who they have it with. Orientation is not a behavior—not for asexual people and not for anyone.