The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

by Julie Sondra Decker

people must recognize that many of them who are not visibly queer in some way are afforded some modicum of heterosexual privilege—an argument that also comes up often when gay people discuss bisexual, polysexual,[19] and pansexual[20] people, who might be seen as straight by society part of the time depending on whether their relationships happen to be cross-gender (or perceived that way) at the time.

As a polyam demromantic bisexual there have been several times in my professional life where others assuming I am heterosexual has given me advantages and privileges more visibly queer folks do not have. It is something I have had to accept about society's perception of myself and correct when I am in a situation of perceived heteronormativity.