Back in chapter 2, I introduced the 3-to-1 positivity ratio as my prescription for how you can lead a flourishing life, full of expansive possibilities and lifelong growth. If 3-to-1, 4-to-1, and 5-to-1 ratios each describe the good life, why have any negativity at all? Why not shoot for 100 to 1? Here we all might protest that a life without suf fering is hardly possible, hardly human. Could any person, marriage, or team ever achieve a state of pure positivity? I don’t think so. But even so, perhaps being negativity-free is an ideal worthy of our strivings. Could there be a level of
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