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Do we expect our partners’ erotic selves to belong entirely to us? I’m talking about thoughts, fantasies, dreams, and memories, and also turn-ons, attractions, and self-pleasure.
In moments when one is flooded with emotion, it’s important to know how to self-regulate. Breathing exercises, soothing hot showers, bracing cold lakes, walks in nature, singing and dancing to music, and active sports can all be helpful. Stillness and movement can both be sources of relief.
therapists can always find problems in a marriage. These just may not be the right keys to unlock the meaning of the affair.
The victim of the affair is not always the victim of the marriage.
Being cheated on makes people feel insignificant, but feeling insignificant for years on end may lead people to cheat.
Many people have affairs not to exit their marriages, but in order to stay in them.
His affair is a stabilizer, a way to take the pressure off his primary relationship, not destroy it.
