A magnifier can be a circumstance. Pregnancy, economic dependency, unemployment, health challenges, immigration status, and countless other life conditions can add to the burden of betrayal. Our family history is a prime magnifier—affairs and other breaches of trust we grew up with or suffered in past relationships can leave us more susceptible. Infidelity always takes place within a web of connections, and the story started long before the acute injury. For some, it confirms a deep-seated fear: “It’s not that he doesn’t love me, it’s that I don’t feel lovable.” And for others, it shatters the
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