Working in the trenches of couples therapy has cautioned me not to impute moral superiority to a guy like Dexter just because he didn’t stray. His brand of fidelity borders on vindictiveness and codependence, and his years of treating his wife so poorly also spell betrayal with a capital B. Indeed, too many partners whose behavior is subpar will eagerly vilify the one who cheats and claim victimhood, confident that the cultural bias is in their favor. Infidelity hurts. But when we grant it a special status in the hierarchy of marital misdemeanors, we risk allowing it to overshadow the
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