For modern love’s idealists, however, the very act of explicitly addressing monogamy seems to call into question the assumption of specialness that is at the heart of the romantic dream. Once we have found “the one,” we believe there should be no need for, no desire for, and no attraction to any other. Hence, our rental agreements are much more elaborate than our relational agreements. For many couples, the extent of the discussion is about five words: “I catch you, you’re dead.”
