Buffers include a strong network of friends and family who are patient and provide a safe space for the complexity of the situation. A well-developed sense of self or a spiritual or religious faith can also mitigate the impact. The quality of the relationship itself, prior to the crisis, always plays a major part. And if one feels that one has options—real estate, savings, job prospects, dating prospects—it not only tempers vulnerability but gives one room to maneuver, inside and out. Parsing the pain points of betrayal helps to identify opportunities for strengthening these protective
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