Ultimately, the problem with the judgmental, highly charged, and repressive conversation about infidelity is that it precludes any possibility for deeper understanding, and therefore for hope and healing—together or apart. Victimization makes marriages more fragile. Of course, when Julian cheats on Jessica while she is home changing her toddler’s diapers, it is helpful for her to get in touch with her anger, an appropriate response to this disfigurement of their relationship.
