Farrah and Jude, a lesbian couple in their mid-thirties, have been together six years. Jude is trying to understand why Farrah had a secret affair after they’d agreed to open up their relationship. “We had an arrangement where it was okay to sleep with other women, so long as we told each other,” Jude recounts. “I thought being open would protect us—but she lied anyway. What more can I do?” Even an open relationship is no guarantee against deception.
