In this economy of moral goods, women are obligated to give to him, not to ask, and expected to feel indebted and grateful, rather than entitled. This is especially the case with respect to characteristically moral goods: attention, care, sympathy, respect, admiration, and nurturing. The flipside of this is his being entitled to take much in the way of these moral goods, including—it would seem—the lives of those who can no longer give him what he wanted in terms of moral succor. He may love and value her intrinsically—that is, for her own sake—but far too conditionally, that is, not on her
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